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Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life

by Vanessa Marin

Making space for conversations about sex

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    Instant New York Times bestseller

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    Praise from John Gottman

    Gottman praises the book as helping readers overcome myths about sex; he is identified as the author of The Seve...

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Making space for conversations about sex

Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, and her husband, Xander, organize the book around five conversations for couples: acknowledging sex, building connection, understanding desire, discussing pleasure, and exploring what to try. The framework treats communication as a practical part of a couple’s sex life, including when partners feel disconnected, uncertain about what they want, or nervous about raising the subject. Its emphasis is on questions and discussion between partners, giving the subject a clear structure rather than presenting sexuality as something couples should already know how to talk about.

Good fit for readers who enjoy

  • Couples who want a structured way to discuss sex and intimacy
  • Partners who feel unsure about expressing their desires or needs
  • Readers seeking relationship-focused guidance on sexual communication

Themes

Sexual communicationCouple connectionDesire and pleasureExploration within relationships

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Book overview

The definitive guide to creating the sex life of your wildest dreams--just by talking about it!--from sexpert couple Vanessa and Xander Marin.

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
AARP.org Books to Improve Your Love Life

Why is it so hard to talk about sex, even with the person who regularly sees you naked?

You know communication is important in a relationship, but you just don't know how to get started with such a sensitive subject. Maybe you've never talked about sex at all, and the thought of it makes your palms sweat. Or you're feeling so disconnected from your partner that sex is the last thing on your mind. Maybe you're too scared to be honest about what you really want. Or you have no freaking clue what you want, so you're not sure how to tell your partner anything helpful!

Sex Talks "helps us overcome the myths that drag us down" (John Gottman, New York Times bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work). Together, sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband, Xander, show you that the best thing you can do for your sex life doesn't even involve taking off your clothes.

Sex Talks covers the five essential conversations every couple needs to have:
1. Acknowledgement: a.k.a. "Sex is a thing, and we have it."
2. Connection: a.k.a. "What do we need to feel connected to each other?"
3. Desire: a.k.a. "What do we each need to get turned on?"
4. Pleasure: a.k.a. "What do we each need to feel good?"
5. Exploration: a.k.a. "What should we try next?"

With gripping storytelling and an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples' closed bedroom doors, Vanessa and Xander share their successful advice that has already helped thousands of clients. Sex Talks "redefines what it means to have great sex" (Logan Ury, author of How to Not Die Alone), providing the sex education you wish you'd had, plus the tried-and-tested tools you need to create the sex life of your wildest dreams.
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