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The Mattering Instinct: How Our Deepest Longing Drives Us and Divides Us

by Rebecca Newberger Goldstein

The drive to matter, in its many forms

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    Martin Seligman calls the book a masterpiece

    Calls the book a masterpiece and praises Rebecca Goldstein's work and its impact.

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The drive to matter, in its many forms

Rebecca Newberger Goldstein examines the longing to matter as a force shaping both human achievement and conflict. Drawing on biology, psychology, and philosophy, she develops the idea through portraits of people whose pursuits range from Scott Joplin’s work on *Treemonisha* to William James’s thinking and an impoverished Chinese woman’s efforts to rescue abandoned newborns. A former neo-Nazi skinhead’s account of turning away from racial violence adds another dimension: the book considers how the pursuit of significance can harm others, and how it need not be treated as a contest with only one winner. Across these examples, Goldstein connects the desire for significance with identity, relationships, and culture.

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  • For readers interested in philosophical accounts of human motivation and identity.
  • For those curious about connections among biology, psychology, and philosophy.
  • For readers interested in biographies and personal stories that illuminate social conflict and change.

Themes

The human longing for significanceIdentity and relationshipsAchievement and conflictNon-zero-sum belonging

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Book overview

MacArthur Fellow and National Humanities Medalist Rebecca Newberger Goldstein, author of Plato at the Googleplex and The Mind-Body Problem, returns with a revelatory book about the primal drive that in our species alone has been transformed into one of our most persistent and universal motivations: the longing to matter.

Drawing on biology, psychology, and philosophy, Goldstein argues that this need to matter--and the various "mattering projects" it inspires--is the source of our greatest progress and our deepest conflicts: the very crux of the human experience.

Goldstein brings this profound idea to life through unforgettable stories of famous and not-so-famous people pursuing their unique mattering projects: the ragtime genius Scott Joplin, whose dedication to his ignored masterpiece, Treemonisha, ended in tragedy; the pioneering psychologist William James, who rose above the depression of his young adulthood to become perhaps the first great theorist of mattering; an impoverished Chinese woman who rescued abandoned newborns from the trash; and a neo-Nazi skinhead who as a young man dealt racial violence to feel he mattered but ultimately renounced that hateful past after realizing that mattering isn't a zero-sum game. These portraits illuminate how our instinct for significance shapes identity, relationships, culture, and conflict--and they point the way to a future where we all might see that there is, fundamentally, enough mattering to go around.

Deeply revealing and insightful, and decades in the making, The Mattering Instinct is a must read for those curious about why we seek to matter to ourselves and others--and how this insatiable longing that drives us apart may be the key to finally understanding each other.

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