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How to Be Real: A Survival Guide in Challenging Times

by Stephen Frosh

Authenticity as a relational question

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Authenticity as a relational question

Stephen Frosh connects the search for authenticity with the difficulty of facing a complex modern world. Drawing on Freud, Winnicott and Klein, he examines how childhood and the development of the self shape our defences against reality, and considers hate, loss and the traces of the past. The book’s argument places relationships at the heart of being real: how people connect has psychological, ethical and political dimensions. It frames solidarity not as an escape from difficulty, but as part of confronting it, and considers how troubling experiences might become part of a richer sense of human connection.

Good fit for readers who enjoy

  • Readers interested in psychoanalytic approaches to the self and childhood development.
  • Those exploring how authenticity, relationships and solidarity intersect.
  • Readers seeking philosophical discussion of hate, loss and facing difficult realities.

Themes

Authenticity and realityPsychoanalysis and self-developmentHuman relationships and solidarityHate, loss and the past

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Book overview

From a leading psychoanalytic thinker, a profound, challenging and restorative book charting a path to a radical future for the self

In How to Be Real, leading psychosocial thinker Stephen Frosh tackles one of our most urgent questions: how can we thrive in a world so troubling and confusing? Despite constant exhortations to be 'authentic' and 'real', our sense of reality is undermined by the complexity of the modern world. Getting in touch with reality means facing up squarely to this complexity.

Drawing on thinkers such as Freud, Winnicott and Klein, Frosh argues that we must look to what connects us. Authenticity depends on the quality of our human relationships. Consequently, the question of 'how to be real' has political as well as psychological and ethical implications. What seems merely disruptive can be the wellspring from which human depth and relational integrity arise.

By exploring childhood and the development of the self, the whys and wherefores behind our defences against reality, and the meaning of hate, Frosh shows how we can turn the ghosts that trouble us into ancestors that enrich our lives. We must be brave enough to seek solidarity with others and, finally, to find the humanity in death. How to Be Real is a bold and necessary guide to finding your radical self in difficult times.
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