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You Are Not Special: ... and Other Encouragements

by David McCullough Jr

A Challenge to Achievement-Driven Parenting

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  • Critical praise

    Praise from Madeline Levine: “may be the wisest ‘parenting’ book I’ve read in decades”

    Madeline Levine praises the book as potentially the wisest parenting book she has read in decades.

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A Challenge to Achievement-Driven Parenting

Expanding on David McCullough Jr.’s commencement speech, this parenting book questions an idea of success built around exceptional achievement and constant advancement. McCullough argues that intense pressure to excel can narrow young people’s willingness to take risks, learn through failure, and develop empathy and self-confidence. His discussion ranges across parental hovering, schools, college preparation, digital distractions, club sports, and the effects of privilege. The book frames useful work and active engagement with life as alternatives to treating distinction as the central goal, while asking adults to reconsider what their expectations communicate to students.

Good fit for readers who enjoy

  • Parents examining achievement pressure and privilege
  • Educators interested in student expectations and school culture
  • Adults seeking a discussion of failure, risk-taking, and confidence in adolescence

Themes

Parenting expectationsAchievement and successFailure and resiliencePrivilegeEducation culture

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Book overview

A profound expansion of David McCullough, Jr.'s popular commencement speech--a call to arms against a prevailing, narrow, conception of success viewed by millions on YouTube--You Are (Not) Special is a love letter to students and parents as well as a guide to a truly fulfilling, happy life

“Every once in a long while, a voice seems to come out of nowhere, and you wonder how you ever managed without [it]. David McCullough, Jr. has that startling, insightful, wry, reassuring, helpful voice and You Are Not Special may be the wisest ?'parenting' book I've read in decades.”--Madeline Levine, author of author of The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well

Children today, says David McCullough--high school English teacher, father of four, and son and namesake of the famous historian--are being encouraged to sacrifice passionate engagement with life for specious notions of success. The intense pressure to excel discourages kids from taking chances, failing, and learning empathy and self-confidence from those failures.

In You Are (Not) Special, McCullough elaborates on his now-famous speech exploring how, for what purpose, and for whose sake, we're raising our kids. With wry, affectionate humor, McCullough takes on hovering parents, ineffectual schools, professional college prep, electronic distractions, club sports, and generally the manifestations, and the applications and consequences of privilege. By acknowledging that the world is indifferent to them, McCullough takes pressure off of students to be extraordinary achievers and instead exhorts them to roll up their sleeves and do something useful with their advantages.

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