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Phoebe Berman's Gonna Lose It: A Novel; New York Times Bestseller

by Brooke Averick

A milestone birthday, a checklist, and three romantic possibilities

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Awards & Recognition

  • Bestseller

    Instant New York Times Bestseller

  • Critical praise

    Praise from Lyla Sage

    Lyla Sage directly praises the book, saying it made her laugh, cry, and swoon, and felt personally relatable.

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A milestone birthday, a checklist, and three romantic possibilities

With her thirtieth birthday a month away, Phoebe Berman sets out to address the intimacy anxiety that has shaped her dating life since adolescence. Her plan takes the form of a checklist, but the story’s complications arrive through three different connections: a new colleague, a former classmate, and her roommate. Alongside Phoebe’s work as a teacher and her close-knit group of friends, the novel frames romance as part of a broader struggle with self-judgment and feeling behind in life. Its central tension lies in the gap between wanting love and finding dating difficult.

Good fit for readers who enjoy

  • Readers interested in contemporary romance centered on intimacy anxiety and dating.
  • Readers who enjoy romantic plots involving multiple potential partners, including a friends-to-lovers possibility.
  • Readers drawn to stories about approaching a milestone birthday and questioning whether they are on track in life.

Themes

Intimacy anxietyDating and romantic possibilitySelf-judgmentMilestone birthdays and adulthood

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Book overview

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER - Meet Phoebe Berman: despite being a hopeless romantic, she's about to be a thirty-year-old virgin. With one month before her milestone birthday, she's determined to finally lose it . . . if her own anxiety doesn't slow her down. The can't-miss debut novel from podcaster and comedian Brooke Averick.

"I laughed (a lot), I cried (more than expected), I swooned (the perfect amount), and I looked into the metaphorical camera, wondering if this book was actually about me."--Lyla Sage, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Soul Searching and the Rebel Blue Ranch series

Is it possible to find true love when going on a date makes you want to throw up?

Phoebe Berman fears the one thing she wants the most: love. Thanks to an extremely unfortunate first kiss attempt, crippling intimacy anxiety has plagued her since she was a teen.

Phoebe has so much going for her: a dream teaching job, a supportive and hilarious group of best friends, and all the romance novels a girl could want at her fingertips--but she can't help but beat herself up over the one thing she can't quite seem to figure out. Determined to change this, she drafts up the ultimate "Guide to Losing My Virginity" checklist with the hope of finally getting laid.

Suddenly, she goes from a relatively boring (basically non-existent) dating life to juggling three romantic prospects at once. There's the gorgeous new fourth grade teacher at her school, a former high school classmate that resurfaces through Words with Friends, and there will always be her roommate, who might just be the best friends-to-lovers situation of her dreams.

Phoebe Berman's Gonna Lose It is a brutally honest and completely relatable story for anyone who's ever felt stuck between coming of age and coming apart.
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