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Difficult Mothers: Understanding and Overcoming Their Power

by Terri Apter

Making Sense of a Painful Maternal Bond

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Making Sense of a Painful Maternal Bond

Terri Apter examines why a troubled relationship with a mother can retain emotional force well into adulthood. Drawing on attachment and brain-development research, the book organizes difficult maternal behavior into five patterns: anger, control, narcissism, envy, and emotional neglect. It considers the lasting tension between adult independence and continued sensitivity to a mother’s approval or response. Alongside this framework, Apter presents an “emotional audit” as a way of identifying the complex feelings shaped by the relationship and addressing their ongoing power. The discussion acknowledges both the particular challenges faced by sons and daughters and their resilience.

Good fit for readers who enjoy

  • Adults seeking a framework for understanding difficult relationships with their mothers
  • Readers interested in attachment, family dynamics, and adult-child relationships
  • Those looking for a structured way to examine lasting emotional responses within a maternal relationship

Themes

Mother-child relationshipsAttachmentEmotional neglectFamily dynamicsResilience

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Book overview

Mother love is often seen as sacred, but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle. Using the newest research on human attachment and brain development, Terri Apter, an internationally acclaimed psychologist and writer, unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond. She showcases the five different types of difficult mother--the angry mother, the controlling mother, the narcissistic mother, the envious mother, and the emotionally neglectful mother--and explains the patterns of behavior seen in each type. Apter also explores the dilemma at the heart of a difficult relationship: why a mother has such a powerful impact on us and why we continue to care about her responses long after we have outgrown our dependence. She then shows how we can conduct an "emotional audit" on ourselves to overcome the power of the complex feelings a difficult mother inflicts. In the end this book celebrates the great resilience of sons and daughters of difficult mothers as well as acknowledging their special challenges.
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